smallWelcome! I’m Ellen Smoak. I’m here to make you happy. I’m here to put a smile on that pretty face of yours again. I’m here to help you heal. And, I’m here to help send you back out into this beautiful world to make the beautiful footprint you’re meant to make.

What does that mean exactly? Basically, I’m here to help you get over that b*stard you call your ex.

Cause until you do that, honey, life will not be as grand as it’s meant to be. YOU will not be as grand as you’re meant to be. And you’re meant for greatness. Got it?

I know it isn’t easy. But it WILL be worth it. Promise.

Believe me, I know first hand. I moved all the way across the country to marry a man, only to have him change his mind a few years later. AND… I worked with him. So in the end… no fiance, no job, and no freaking clue what the hell I was going to do next.

I understand what it’s like to lose everything. Truly, I do. But I ALSO understand how to get over it now, too.

My life depended on me getting over my ex. I didn’t have any time to waste, either. I had to do something FAST. I had to do something BIG. And, I had to do something that would actually WORK.

I wasn’t going to be one of those people who took years to get over someone. (Heck no!)

And I hope you decide not to be one of those people either.

If so, I’ll show you how. I’ll show you exactly what to do to beat your broken heart BEFORE it beats YOU.

Join the forces of women who aren’t going to let their ex get them down any longer.

Join the brilliant, beautiful women who are SO much better than that.

Join the Breakup Revolution.


I’m not much different than you, really.

I may have longer hair, eat faster, talk with my hands more, take hotter showers, and have colder feet, but truth be told, I’m just like you.

I like sunny days, rainy nights in, laughing, being hugged by someone twice my size, winning a game of bowling, and playing hookie.

I want to be happy. I want to be loved. And, I want to try almost everything at least once.

I’ve been in love my whole life. First with my father, though (bless his little heart) he ended up being the first person to break my heart. Next, with the cutest kid in kindergarten, who kissed me one day behind my playhouse. (Actually, he kissed me and then ran away really fast. Some men never change, apparently.)

Speaking of change, let me take this moment to remind you that you can’t change anyone except yourself. Period.

Screw the saying, “This is just who I am.” If you’re currently using this expression, we need to talk.

You are so much better than that.

I started ‘working on myself’ over a decade ago when I went to my first yoga class in San Diego, CA. Shortly after that, I dove head first into self-study and devoured every book that I could get my paws on about relationships, self-awareness, and personal growth.

I went to workshops, seminars, and hired personal coaches. If relationships, self-awareness, or personal growth was being taught, written about, or discussed…I was all eyes and all ears.

So, back to the reason you’re here. (Heartache.)

I had my very first real heartbreak shortly after that very first yoga class. The story is so damn good, that I’ve saved most of it for my book. So, join the revolution fast, will ya?

Click here to get your free video series “How To Beat a Broken Heart BEFORE It Beats YOU!”

That breakup beat me DOWN.  But, it makes for a kick ass story that will probably make you pee your pants.

So when I was dumped by my fiance, I had a point of reference (the lowest point), and I knew what I needed to do instead. When this process worked better than I could have ever imagined… I turned it into a book, started this site, and now coach women all around the world how to break up and not break down.

You’ll be OK.

But, you have to want to be ok again. You have to have the desire to be ok again. If you do, then follow me.


unnamedEllen Smoak is a best-selling author, speaker, and host whose work has been featured on ABC, NBC, Yahoo, and FOX. She’s been interviewed with and endorsed by top thought leaders, including Marianne Williamson, Deepak Chopra, Dr. John Gray, Arielle Ford, and Marci Shimoff.

A South Carolina native gone California in her early twenties, Ellen combines her East Coast sensibility with her West Coast spirit to teach, inspire, and guide people towards long-lasting love and happiness.

Ellen’s self-help book, Breakups Are A Bitch, But Getting Over It Doesn’t Have To Be! rapidly became the go-to guide for people all around the world suffering through the pain of a breakup or divorce, and she now teaches this system globally through her home study courses and one-one-one private coaching programs.

Ellen weaves her transformational life coaching experience, her yoga teacher training, and her long journey towards self-love and happiness together to help you get happy and find love. Catch Ellen’s sassy self-help show, SmoakinHot TV: Where Life is Happy, and Love is Hot, which airs on her blog and YouTube, where she can be found weekly giving advice on life and love. For speaking inquiries (or just to say hello) click here.

4 Responses to “About Ellen”

  1. Monique

    Dear Ellen,

    – You are such an example for keeping your head up , like what Victoria Beckham said : when people (life) kick her down , she is just trying to get up.
    – No matter how hard the pain is……. you can get us through. Incredible instant seminar replays

    • ellensmoak

      Thank you Monique! I’m so happy you found this community. Stay tuned for more good stuff…both here AND in your love life! xoxo Ellen

  2. Isla Harrap

    Howdy.. Do you use Twitter?? I’d like to follow you if that would be ok… I’m absolutely enjoying your blog and look forward to new updates.

  3. Gail Sapone

    I would love to interview you! I love your work and would like to interview you for the Ultimate Women’s Health Summit. We serve women in midlife who are interested in staying young, vital and healthy. Your work is a perfect fit. Do you do interviews?