Welcome! I’m Ellen Smoak. I’m here to make you happy. I’m here to put a smile on that pretty face of yours again. I’m here to help you heal. And, I’m here to help send you back out into this badass world, so that you can make that huge, badass footprint you’re meant to be making.
What does that mean exactly? Basically, I’m here to help you get over that b*stard you call your ex.
Cause until you do that, honey, life will not be as grand as it’s meant to be. YOU will not be as grand as you’re meant to be. And you’re meant for greatness. Got it?
I know it isn’t easy. But it WILL be worth it. Promise.
Believe me, I know first hand. I moved all the way across the country to marry a man, only to have him change his mind a few years later. AND, I worked with him. So, in the end, no fiance, no job, and no freaking clue what the hell I was going to do next.
I understand what it’s like to lose everything. Truly, I do. But I understand how to get over it now, too.
My life depended on me getting over my ex. I didn’t have any time to waste, either. I had to do something FAST. I had to do something BIG. And, I had to do something that would actually WORK.
I wasn’t going to be one of those people who took years to get over someone. Hell no.
And I hope you decide not to be, either.
If so, I’ll show you how. I’ll show you exactly what to do to beat your broken heart BEFORE it beats YOU.
Join the forces of women who aren’t going to let their ex get them down any longer.
Join the brilliant, badass women who are SO much better than that.
I’m not much different than you, really.
I may have longer hair, eat faster, talk with my hands more, take hotter showers, and have colder feet, but truth be told, I’m just like you.
I like sunny days, rainy nights in, laughing, being hugged by someone twice my size, winning a game of bowling, and playing hookie.
I want to be happy. I want to be loved. And, I want to try almost everything at least once.
I’ve been in love my whole life. First with my father, though (bless his little heart) he ended up being the first person to break my own little heart. Next, with the cutest kid in kindergarten, who kissed me one day behind my playhouse. (Actually, he kissed me and then ran away really fast. Some men never change, apparently.)
Speaking of change, let me take this moment to remind you that you can’t change anyone except yourself. Period.
Screw the saying, “This is just who I am.” If you’re currently using this expression, we need to talk.
You are so much better than that.
I started ‘working on myself’ over a decade ago when I went to my first yoga class in San Diego, CA. Shortly after that, I dove head first into self-study and devoured every book that I could get my paws on about relationships, self-awareness, and personal growth.
I went to workshops, seminars, and hired personal coaches. If relationships, self-awareness, or personal growth was being taught, written about, or discussed…I was all eyes and all ears.
So, back to the reason you’re here. (Heartache.)
I had my very first real heartbreak shortly after that very first yoga class. The story is so damn good, that I’ve saved most of it for my book. So, join the revolution fast, will ya?
That breakup beat me like a son-of-a-bitch. But, it makes for a kick ass story that will probably make you pee your pants.
So when I was dumped by my fiance, I had a point of reference (the lowest point), and I knew what I needed to do instead. When it worked better than I could have ever imagined, I turned it into a book, started this site, and now coach women all around the world how to break up and not break down.
You’ll be OK.
But, you have to want to be ok again. You have to have the desire to be ok again. If you do, then follow me.
Ellen Smoak is an Internationally acclaimed author, speaker, and host who’s work has been featured on ABC, NBC, Yahoo, and FOX. A South Carolina native gone California in her early twenties, Ellen combines her East Coast sensibility with her West Coast spirit to teach, inspire, and guide people towards long-lasting change in their relationships. Her book, Breakups Are A Bitch, But Getting Over Him Doesn’t Have To Be! rapidly became the go-to guide for people all around the world suffering through the pain of a breakup or divorce, and she now teaches this system globally through her home study courses and one-one-one private coaching programs. Ellen believes that many of us have been suffering most of our lives from unresolved heartache, which causes us great struggle in every relationship- romantic or otherwise. Her programs are designed to not only uncover the root of this pain, but to also actively and purposefully heal this pain from the inside out. Ellen has coined the term "Breakup Brilliance" to reflect the magnificent transformation awaiting you after life knocks you down…should you choose it. She weaves her yoga teacher training, transformational life coaching, and her long journey towards self-love and acceptance together, to bring you life-changing programs to help you become the most brilliant version of yourself possible.