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Whether you’re just now trying to get over an ex, or you’ve been trying to get over a breakup for quite some time now, one thing’s for certain — at SOME point, you’re going to start dating again. When you do, you’ll want to know where to find available men.

Well…I’ve found the goldmine of men, ladies. I discovered this years ago…Way before I started sharing this dating advice online to you. Before I started dishing my secret gold mine, my friends would make comments like “I don’t know anyone else who can land as many dates as you can.” 

When I finally started to reveal where my goldmine is, these same friends would say something like “Only you, Ellen. I would have NEVER thought to do that to find a date. And I’m just not NEARLY as brave as you.” 

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I went for a run today…pretty typical of me on such a beautiful spring day.

All of sudden, during one of my most favorite rap songs to run to…

I heard the most amazing lyrics.

“You can be a part of the problem, or you can be a part of the solution.

What better advice to we ever have in life and in love, right?

I want to acknowledge you today for your bravery to reach out for help by reading this blog.

You, my dear sweet badass friend, are going to be a part of the solution.

But let me remind you of something…Change take TWO things:

The desire to change, and the action to change it. If you ever loose your desire to receive the change, you will never change.

And on the flip side, you can wish all damn day long that you were different than you are now, that you had different and better “results” in your life, that you were more patient or less reactive, more assertive, less volatile….The list for each of us goes on and on.

But if you never take any action to change your “ways of being”, to learn more about who you are, what kind of relationship you want, and how to act while in that relationship, then you’ll probably never see any change at all.

Instead, you’ll keep seeing the same damn thing over and over again. You’ll be on a hamster wheel. You’ll keep attracting the same man over and over again with a different face.

There is SO much that we can learn about ourselves from a relationship…Especially from a breakup! Spend some time contemplating what worked in your past relationship…Think about what didn’t work and try your best to figure out WHY. If you need help, send me an email. I help thousands of men and women all around the world get through breakups…And breakfree from the chains of the never ending hamster wheel.

So today, I recognize you for starting to take action. For reading this blog and hopefully using it’s advice. And if you haven’t already, sign up for my free goodies in the right hand column of this page. I’ll give you the exact action steps that you need to take RIGHT NOW to change your broken heart back into one that is full of happiness, hope, and never ending love. 

Be the change my badass friend! And a part of the solution.

So…What are YOUR thoughts? Please leave a comment below! I can’t wait to read it and reply back to you.

BIG HUG!

Ellen Smoak

Author | Speaker | Relationship Coach

P.S. Get my free video series “How to beat your broken heart BEFORE it beats YOU!” for free by clicking here. In this series, you’ll learn: How to know if your ex is your soulmate, The biggest mistake most people make to get over their ex, and How to stop thinking about your ex all the time, move on, and be free! Get your free videos right here.

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Today I’ve decided to discuss a very common question that I get asked several times per week by people reading my blog.

And the question is this:

“How can I stop thinking about my ex?”

This is the single most common question that I get asked, and one that I asked myself over and over when I was going through my own breakup. I didn’t know what to do at first, either.

All I knew is that I could be driving down the street…And BAM! Just like lightening, a memory of my ex would strike…taking me back to the very moment in time that the memory actually took place.

The moment we met.

The first time we made love.

The moment he asked me to marry him.

The moments go on and on and on. And the pain never seemed to subside, no matter how long after the breakup that the memory struck.

So I get it. It’s totally crippling and it can literally bring you down to your knees…Not to mention the pain and agony that lingers for at least the next few hours. If not the rest of the damn day.

Well, my friend, keeping these painful thoughts in your mind at bay is totally possible. But just like with anything else, it takes work.

But don’t let the word ‘work’ scare you. The good news is that its much easier than other things that take work…Like loosing 10 pounds or training for a 10K. It’s also much easier than the alternative- Allowing these crippling thoughts of your ex to rob you of your happiness…And your chance to be happy with someone in the future who actually will treat you like the treasure that you are.

Because let’s be honest…If your ex wasn’t able or willing to rise to the occasion, someone even better will.

So back to how to get rid of the memories and keep the painful thoughts from striking.

Basically, you have to replace them. You have to replace the painful thoughts in your head with new, joyful ones. This is a major step in your mending a broken heart, moving on from your ex, and finding true love.

If left untreated, you are setting yourself up for years of unnecessary suffering. You are also very likely setting yourself to bring your breakup baggage into your next relationship, creating potential problems due to unresolved issues.

So…What are YOUR thoughts? Please leave a comment below! I can’t wait to read it and reply back to you.

BIG HUG!

Ellen Smoak

Author | Speaker | Relationship Coach

P.S. Get my free video series “How to beat your broken heart BEFORE it beats YOU!” for free by clicking here. In this series, you’ll learn: How to know if your ex is your soulmate, The biggest mistake most people make to get over their ex, and How to stop thinking about your ex all the time, move on, and be free! Get your free videos right here.

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So today a reader wrote in admitting to still sleeping with their ex.

Seriously?

I’m not even going to sugar coat this one, Sugar.

You’ve got to cut that sh*t out ASAP!

I don’t care if you have to get a chastity belt, or if I have to lock yourself up in an attic like Rapunzel until your hair grows long enough that someone can come rescue your crazy a**.

You have GOT to stop sleeping with your ex.

This is a BIG deal. (And I don’t care how big something else might be.)

Yes, it feels good. Yes, it makes you feel like you’re back together again…

Yes, Yes, YES!

But here’s the deal…

When you sleep with your ex, you’re emotionally cutting yourself. And only crazy people cut themselves.

Seriously. People with certifiable mental disorders physically cut themselves and end up in hospitals and looney bins. And though I’m not qualified to talk about this nor why someone would do such damage on their body, I am qualified to tell you that sleeping with your ex isn’t any less insane.

I know this from experience, sister. I know how tempting it is, and how good it feels, and how much hope it can create.

But I also know how devastating it is to open myself back up to someone who broke my heart, only to be discarded once again.

Which, I might add, is worse than my breakup ever felt to begin with.

So stop sleeping with your ex (if this is what you’re doing). Don’t wake up again in that bed you shouldn’t have been in in the first place. 

Have more self-respect than that. Love yourself more than that. 

I do.

So…What are YOUR thoughts? Please leave a comment below! I can’t wait to read it and reply back to you.

BIG HUG!

Ellen Smoak

Author | Speaker | Relationship Coach

P.S. Get my free video series “How to beat your broken heart BEFORE it beats YOU!” for free by clicking here. In this series, you’ll learn: How to know if your ex is your soulmate, The biggest mistake most people make to get over their ex, and How to stop thinking about your ex all the time, move on, and be free! Get your free videos right here.

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I got this letter today from a dear sweet reader in Chile who’s struggling with her breakup:
“Hi Ellen, here’s the deal. I dated a friend’s brother a while ago. We were doing soooo well, but then the summer came (I live in Chile) and he went to his hometown. In the beginning, everything was cool, we talked everyday, he called me everyday… He even called me after new year to wish me a happy new year. And the next day he told me he wasn’t coming back in town for like two months, and decided to break up and stop talking to me… It’s been over a week now and I’m doing fine but I can’t help being sad about the situation, because it all ended in the blink of an eye and I really don’t understand why… I sometimes think that we may be together again when he returns but I don’t want to get my hopes up (even if I can’t help it)… I don’t know what to do. Everyone tells me to forget him (at least for the summer) and see what’s up when he’s back in town. What do you say? Thanks!”
Dear Chile Chica,
 
Girl, I TOTALLY understand how you feel!
 
And it feels like shit. Men pull away, and you’re left wondering what the hell their problem is and why they left you. (Because it would take a effing idiot to leave your badass self.)
 
It’s absolutely painstaking.
 
But good for you for reaching out to me. You’re brave and you’re a fighter.
 
Don’t give up.
 
As for what I think about the situation…
 
I have a question for you…
 
How does this man make you FEEL?
 
Not when you met, not the first time you made love, not before he broke up with you….but RIGHT NOW.
 
How does this man make you feel RIGHT NOW?
 
Because you deserve to feel happy and to feel loved and this IS NOT how he’s making you feel RIGHT NOW.
 
Right now is what you have. Right now is all any of us will ever have.
 
Right now is not then. Right now is not when he gets back in two months. Right now is not when and if he happens to want you back after the summer is over.
 
Right now, my dear sweet friend, is all about YOU.
 
What I want you to do is this:
 
Think about how you feel RIGHT NOW. There are no right or wrong answers. Write it down on a piece of paper.
 
Notice how you feel as you write down your thoughts and emotions.
 
Examples: Confused. Discarded. Unworthy. Alone.
 
FEEL everything in your body. Notice how awful it feels!
 
Next, write down how you WANT to feel and how you WANT A MAN to make you feel.
 
Examples: Loved. Important. Safe. Adored. Etc…
 
Notice how all of THESE emotions feel in your body, and how different they feel than the other negative ones you might be experiencing right now.
 
Life is all about how we feel, and we have the choice to choose people who make us feel GOOD instead of BAD.
 
I challenge you to get to know yourself, what you want, and how you want to feel in the presence of the man you’re with.
 
Don’t ever compromise your feelings or what you desire to feel ever again.
 
When you stay true to yourself and what you want to feel, you will give off those feelings all the time, thus attracting a man who will give them back to you- who’s ready to give them back to you.
 
And the world is abundant in men who are just DYING to make you feel the way you want to feel.
 
Dating is like “trying on” another person and how they make you feel.
 
It’s a process. And the very cool thing is that YOU GET TO DECIDE who’s worthy of you and your love.
 
AND… you’ve got to trust the process.
 
It’s also a process of self-actualization and personal growth.
 
I challenge you to also grow from this and become a more brilliant version of yourself.

So…What are YOUR thoughts? Please leave a comment below! I can’t wait to read it and reply back to you.

BIG HUG!

Ellen Smoak

Author | Speaker | Relationship Coach

P.S. Get my free video series “How to beat your broken heart BEFORE it beats YOU!” for free by clicking here. In this series, you’ll learn: How to know if your ex is your soulmate, The biggest mistake most people make to get over their ex, and How to stop thinking about your ex all the time, move on, and be free! Get your free videos right here.

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“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch

So I was talking to my good friend Joe today about relationships.

It’s one of my favorite past times, actually- talking to Joe about relationships. 

He’s wonderful and wise. And he’s been that way for the entire time I’ve had the honor of knowing him. 

Joe has been in my life for almost twelve years, both as a friend and a lover

He appeared out of no where on Bourbon St. during Mardi Gras 2001, as my friends and I were dancing through the crowd of topless beaded babes and drunken debauchery. 

(Actually, I was the topless beaded babe within the drunken debauchery, but because my mother is probably going to read this, I’ll keep that part of the story to a minimum. I will tell you, however, that I did the most outrageous thing I’ve ever done that day- I sat topless under a tent while a hot painter stoked paint across my chest to match my tiger stripped pants. And hat. I had a hat to match, too.)

So it’s probably no wonder that I caught the attention of the wise and wonderful Joe later that evening, as I strutted my hot tiger self down the streets of New Orleans in search of laughter and fun. 

Which is exactly what I found when the universe put Joe in my path and via versa.

We laughed and we danced and we eventually made love, too- all from this one chance encounter that serendipitous night in the French Quarter. 

Today Joe is one of my best friends. He reminds me of chance encounters, serendipity, and abundance.

Which is what I want to remind you of as well.

You never know who you’re going to meet. You never know what man is going to fall out of the sky and land right in your path while you’re strutting your hot self down the street you walk down each and every day.

(No, you don’t have to go topless with tiger strips. But yes, you do need to start taking a few more risks.)

Take a risk today by stepping out of your comfort zone of thinking about the past. 

Yes, the past is comfortable. I know. You can see it. You’ve been there before.

The future is unknown, and the unknown can be scary. 

But the world is abundant and there are many serendipitous chance encounters waiting for you in your future. 

So stop thinking about the past and surrender to your beautiful future instead. 

Do this everyday when you wake up. Create each new day as if you’ve never lived and loved before. Stop living in the past. Let go of your mistakes, and make way for new relationships without limits.

A breakup is not a finishing line. It’s a starting point. 

Keep running…

So…What are YOUR thoughts? Please leave a comment below! I can’t wait to read it and reply back to you.

BIG HUG!

Ellen Smoak

Author | Speaker | Relationship Coach

P.S. Get my free video series “How to beat your broken heart BEFORE it beats YOU!” for free by clicking here. In this series, you’ll learn: How to know if your ex is your soulmate, The biggest mistake most people make to get over their ex, and How to stop thinking about your ex all the time, move on, and be free! Get your free videos right here.

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Happy New Year my badass friend!

By now you know I really love that word- Badass.

I use it all over the place. On this blog, on Facebook- it’s even in the tagline of my book.

It’s not the most feminine word, I know. But this is exactly why I use it so much- we as women need to tap into a more aggressive, self-assured energy that is typically exuded by men.

This aggressive, self- assured energy is what you need to kick your ex to the curb once and for all.

It’s the energy that you need to rise above the blame, the regret and the sorrow that you feel as a result of your breakup.

And it’s the energy that you need to move on with your big, beautiful life.

Remember when you were a cheerleader? (Or when you weren’t and had to listen to their annoying chants anyhow.)

There’s a reoccurring song that cheerleaders sing that goes a little something like this:

“Be Aggressive! B. E. Aggressive!”

Well, ladies, it’s time to be aggressive. It’s time to not let anyone run your life or your emotions anymore except you.

So today, this second day of 2013, tap into your Inner Badass.

Some call it personal power, some call it inner strength.

Your inner badass is this power, and it is this strength. You have a well of personal power and inner strength inside of you.

All you have to do is tap into it.

Tap into your inner badass and stay connected with it for the rest of 2013. Make it your mission over the course of the next year to not let anyone or anything take away your power or your strength ever again.

To a badass year full of power, strength, and unlimited badass energy.

So…What are YOUR thoughts? Please leave a comment below! I can’t wait to read it and reply back to you.

BIG HUG!

Ellen Smoak

Author | Speaker | Relationship Coach

P.S. Get my free video series “How to beat your broken heart BEFORE it beats YOU!” for free by clicking here. In this series, you’ll learn: How to know if your ex is your soulmate, The biggest mistake most people make to get over their ex, and How to stop thinking about your ex all the time, move on, and be free! Get your free videos right here.

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So today is the end of an era.

For many of us, today represents the last day in a very heartbreaking year, one that we will never forget and one that has shaped us for the rest of our lives.

But let’s not forget…

This has also been the year of magic!

This has been the year that you’ve broken through internal barriers, learned some of your most valuable lessons, and shed unhealthy layers of yourself that once held you back from loving yourself and other fully and completely.

And if you haven’t yet accepted the last year as one of your most magical…what the heck are you waiting for?

You’re on this blog for one reason and one reason only:

To break up into the most beautiful, badass version of yourself, so that you can go back out into this badass world again and live your big beautiful life to the fullest.

If you’re on this site because you think your ex might be hiding here, waiting with a big bouquet of apology roses…think again. You’re here for you and you only.

(Even if he were here, I’m pretty sure the girls at the Breakup Revolution would have burned him at the stake by now for being such an idiot.)

He’s not here. But you are.

And thank the heavens for that.

You deserve to be here, baby. You deserve to ditch your ex boyfriend baggage for good this time- the baggage you carry from this last ex and all the ones before him, too.

So make the decision right now to ditch all this damn baggage! Head into the New Year as the happiest, healthiest version by healing your broken 

Make this your best New Year’s Resolution ever.

So…What are YOUR thoughts? Please leave a comment below! I can’t wait to read it and reply back to you.

BIG HUG!

Ellen Smoak

Author | Speaker | Relationship Coach

P.S. Get my free video series “How to beat your broken heart BEFORE it beats YOU!” for free by clicking here. In this series, you’ll learn: How to know if your ex is your soulmate, The biggest mistake most people make to get over their ex, and How to stop thinking about your ex all the time, move on, and be free! Get your free videos right here.

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