Today I’ve decided to discuss a very common question that I get asked several times per week by people reading my blog.
“How can I stop thinking about my ex?”
This is the single most common question that I get asked… And it’s also the question that I asked MYSELF over and over when I was going through my own breakup.
At first, I didn’t know how to stop. I was absolutely consumed with thoughts of my ex, and I could hardly get anything else done.
All I knew is that I could be driving down the street… and then, BAM! Just like lightening… a memory of my ex would strike, taking me all the way back in time to that very moment itself. And every time it happened, it was terribly painful and awfully sad.
I’ve talked and emailed with thousands of other women going through breakups…
And I’ve found out that “not being able to stop thinking about him” is not only extremely common, it’s also what most women are saying is the hardest part of a breakup.
If you’re anything like the women I’ve been speaking to, you know what I’m taking about. You wake up thinking about him. You think about the moment you first met, or the first time you make love.
For me, my mind would always take me back to the moment that my ex proposed to me…. and every time I thought about it, I would start to cry.
The amount of time that you spend thinking about your ex will start to diminish over time…. but there ARE ways that you can help speed up the process.
As you know, you think a lot. In fact, the average person has between 50,000 and 70,000 thoughts per day. Break that down into minutes, and you’re having 35-48 thoughts every 60 seconds. When you’ve just gone through something as traumatic as a breakup, it’s VERY possible that most of those thoughts include your ex — what went wrong, what you could have done to save the relationship, why he left, why he cheated, what’s going to happen to you, etc.
It really is no wonder why we feel so terrible during a breakup! We’re quite literally thinking about something painful all darn day.
The best remedy for this pain is to come up with something to “replace” all of these thoughts with, since it’s a guarantee that your brain isn’t going to stop thinking anytime soon. I teach you how to do this inside my Breakup Recovery System — a unique and proven system to help you stop thinking about your ex, take your power back, and rebuild your life.
Inside the program, I walk you step-by-step through a healing process that I created specifically to help you replace painful thoughts about your ex with happier, healthier thoughts about yourself and your future.
When you use this system, you’ll also be repairing and rewiring some of your limiting beliefs — subconsciously beliefs that you have that get in your way of attracting (and maintaining!) the right relationship for you. It’s truly miraculous to witness the woman who’ve taken my course. They’ve gone on to find greater love with even more amazing men — all as a result of “doing the work.”
Now, don’t let the word “work” scare you. What I teach inside this program is a whole heck-of-a-lot easier that losing 10 pounds or training for a 10K. It’s also a much easier alternative to being in pain. Trust me, I’ve been there. Thinking about my ex all the time got in my way of experiencing happiness again, until I decided to do something about it and start to heal.