Whether you’re just now trying to get over an ex, or you’ve been trying to get over a breakup for quite some time now, one thing’s for certain — at SOME point, you’re going to start dating again. When you do, you’ll want to the best place to find a new date.
Not only that, but you’ll also be curious if there’s a way for you to find a date without putting yourself on the latest dating app. Sure, dating apps are a great way to meet men. But this doesn’t have to be your ONLY option.
When I decided that I was ready to start dating again, I wanted to “get my feet wet” a little bit before putting myself online. I wanted to actually talk to men and see what it felt like to have an actual, face-to-face conversation with someone other than my ex-fiance. For me, breaking the ice in person was a whole lot less intimidating than chatting with a stranger online. So, I decided to try something new.
Now, I know this might scare the panties off you you at first. It actually took a lot of courage for me to try this out for myself. But once I did, it became easier and easier, and eventually I felt like a pro.
After a while, my friends started commenting, “We don’t know anyone else who can land as many dates as you do. What’s your secret?”
So, I decided to start sharing my “secret” with them. Turns out it works quit well for any woman, as long as you’re willing to put yourself out there and be seen.
Are YOU that woman? Let’s find out…
In my experience, the best way to find a new date is to take yourself out to dinner, sit down at the bar, and enjoy a nice, relaxing meal… all by yourself.
- Sitting at the bar by yourself (rather than a table) makes you look more available. It also makes you appear more social, as opposed to “sitting by yourself” at a table in the back. This availability and perceived desire to be social will make you more approachable to men. Sitting by yourself (instead of going out with a friend) also makes men less intimated to approach you. Men fear rejection and embarrassment, so the more friends you have around, the more embarrassed he will be if you turn him down.
2. Sitting at the bar by yourself will help you strike up a conversation with the bartender (who’s probably handsome and outgoing.) Actually, it’s their JOB to be! Flirting innocently with the bartender will help ease any anxiety you may have about being out by yourself. Flirting with the bartender will also bring out your smile, laughter and radiance, which will help YOU become the most radiant woman in the place. Also, bartenders are GREAT people to let know you’re on the market. They often get to know who else is single and available, so they make excellent matchmaker!
3. Sitting at the bar by yourself means that you’ll probably end up sitting next to someone else who’s also having dinner by themselves. Men go out solo all the time, which mean there will probably be AT LEAST one solo man sitting next to you. When he does, keep yourself open, and let him start talking to you. If he doesn’t, YOU say something. Compliment his tie. Ask him how his day is going. Give him a recommendation off the menu. Just make sure you start to talk.
Whatever you do, don’t jump to all sorts of conclusions right away. Try your best not to judge a book by its cover. I’ve had men sit down next to me that I didn’t think I ever wanted to touch with a ten-foot pole, but then been so enamored with their intellect and wisdom that I didn’t want the night to end. Other times, I’ve been so hot and bothered by the man who sits next to me, only to find them terrible boring to talk to. Either way, conversations with strangers will help you determine what you do and don’t prefer when it comes to this opposite sex.
Striking up conversations with men over casual dinners “alone” may or may not lead you to your next soulmate… but sitting at home on a Friday night definitely won’t. This, however, I can almost guarantee: You’ll probably be the ONLY woman in the entire place who’s there by yourself, which proves your confidence — making YOU the most attractive woman around. Surveys have shown that the #1 most attractive quality in a woman IS her confidence — so do yourself and favor, and take your hot self out to dinner by yourself ASAP.
Don’t be surprised if you even get your dinner and drinks paid for as well. Men LOVE confident woman, and they love treating them like queens.
Enjoy. You have nothing to lose… Except your single status!